How to Live with a Roommate

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There is always much excitement and anticipation when you move to a new apartment with a new roommate. The possibilities seem endless. Maybe you’ll become lifelong friends or perhaps you’ll both enjoy hosting parties together. You might have the same interests or experience momentous life events together.

More often than not, you’ll likely have ups and downs with your roommate. Like any relationship, it takes work, respect, and consistent communication. How can you make sure your roommate relationship is successful? 

We’ve got five tips to help! Based on many years of experience and witnessing countless roommate scenarios, our team has put together key lessons for how to live with a roommate.   

Respect Each Other’s Privacy

It’s important to understand how each roommate defines privacy and what that means to them. For some, privacy means leaving them alone when they’re in their defined space (i.e., bedroom). For others, it’s never entering their bedroom or bathroom. Be clear about what level of privacy each person expects. A great way to encourage privacy is by finding a floorplan that is designed with bedrooms on opposite ends of an apartment or with another room between the bedrooms (i.e., bathroom). The two-bedroom floor plan at our community featured with this blog post is a great example of that ideal layout.

Create Your Own Space

Whether you and your roommate are best friends or casual acquaintances, it’s good to create your own personal space. You can do this by personalizing a part of the apartment, such as your bedroom.  You also can create that space by having a distinct group of friends. As Buzzfeed notes, you and our roommate don’t always have to hang out or be together even if you live together. It’s healthy to spend some time apart.

Learn the Schedules

This advice is a pro tip from those who’ve lived with multiple roommates. Ask your roommate about their schedule and do your best to be considerate of it. If your roommate has to be up for work early, try to avoid too much loud noise later at night (this is another reason why the layout of an apartment, mentioned in the privacy tip matters). Alternatively, if your roommate works late, it’s might not be the best idea to ground coffee beans in the morning or blast the TV volume. 

Be Courteous

As with many things in life, living with someone else comes is all about everyone following the Golden Rule. Simply put, treat others as you want to be treated. Be respectful and courteous. The vast majority of roommate disputes can be resolved by taking into account this advice.

Talk about Sharing

Don’t forget to have a conversation with your roommate about items that you might be able to share. Is it really necessary to have two bottles of ketchup, two jars of sugar, two sets of napkins and paper towels? In most instances, you can share some food and other supplies. provides insightful guidance on sharing with your roommate(s). As with most tips, it’s all about setting clear guidelines and following through. 

At Abberly Green, we believe it’s how you live that matters. That’s why we like to share tips and recommendations to help ensure your roommate experience is positive. It’s important that your home is a place you can relax and feel comfortable.

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